Date:  Nov 27, 2016

Saw this from Dr. Ashley Tan’s blog (i.e. “Another dot in the blogosphere”)… about the recent PSLE story related to a co-founder of Kiasu Parent forums.

Hahaha

Then, I read the news from Today online and figure out what was the story.

http://www.todayonline.com/singapore/kiasuparentcom-co-founder-comes-full-circle-site-launch

Hahahaha…. It makes me think about what I have done…

My two boys, Jay & Kay just got their report cards back from school.  They are both in P4 and P1.  The results was a bit below expectations.  But I rewarded both of them with Nintendo’s New 3DS XL (with Pokemon Sun & Moon limited edition casing and the Pikachu limited edition casing).

And they are going to play Pokemon Sun & moon during the whole holidays.

Both of my kids has demonstrated strong independence this year.  When they come back from school, they will do their home work.  When the test or exam or quiz came, they will study on their own.  I cannot remember times I need to ask them about home work.  This is the first thing I teach them.  To become independence.

I gave them necessary resources so that they can learn on their own.  And I am glad about the school’s online resources too, such as MC Online, Koobits and ProblemSums.  At home, I also subscribes to Super Star Teachers online lessons so that they can watch it from time to time.

I let them play.  I have a lot of things for them to play at home.  There are lots of Legos.  There are lots of Raspberry Pi.  Both of them has iPad.  Both of them has Computers.  We have Xbox, Wii, Nintendo 3DS & 2DS.  We have lots of books.  We have lots of board games.  But we teach them “They have to finished homework before play.”

I have lots of kids documentary at home too.  I have whole 79 episodes of Pokemon season 1.  I have lots of others cartoons, such as Star Wars Rebels, Thunderbirds Are go.  These week they are into “Robot Wars”.  But we teach them “They have to finished homework before watch TV.”

Jay actually has the same marks as last year.  And with that, he got into the top 25% class.  He can do much better, but the second half results are not as what he expected.  Yes, “he expected“.  Not I or my wife, the parents expected.  Hahahaha, we teach them what to expect.  He score very well in the first half of the year.  So, he expected to get better marks at the second half of the year, instead, it went bit below his expectations.  This is their life.  They study for their future life.  So, they have to be the one to decide what to expect.

At home, as you follow my blogs for the past few years, you know, I only teach them one thing with high demands.  Which is “They are Chinese, so they need to learn Chinese, do well in Chinese language.”  That is the only subject I as a parent will help out.  The rest, have to depends on them.

The other things that I am very persistently teaching them is to be good, be responsible kid, to be a kind person, to respect people.  I canned them if they are out of lines, not respecting others.  The most important thing is to raise the kids up right.

This year, both myself and my wife were so busy.  My wife started up a new Aquaponics business at Tuas, and she is seldom at home.  I have some legal suit need to attend for the companies and flies to other countries for business a lot more this year.  So, as you can imagine, 2-3 weeks before their exam and test, I did not spent too much time to help him or study together with them.  But this year, both of them has show extra-ordinary independency.

So, I have rewarded them by upgrading them with the Nintendo new 3DS XL.  And each got $100 to buy their favourite games too.

Every where they go, they bring along their Nintendo.

Kids need happiness.  Kids need their childhood.  I am very particular about this.

I want my kids to have a very very happy childhood.

I want to see their face carrying this kind nice happy smile as always.

Almost every week, they have a play dates and kids playing together happily.

Of course, sometimes we will arrange some interesting play date.

Yesterday, after watching the Fantastic Beast and where to find them… They met up their good friends Gwen and Riandy, and we decided to watch the 2nd movie.

Kids with happy childhood will remember all these happy thoughts and only with all positive happy thoughts they will continue learning these life skills such as cooking for the family.  hahahahah

I really cannot remember a moment that I am stress about studying when I was in Primary school.  My mom and dad certainly did not force me to study.  In fact, I think I have the most wonderful childhood days.  Every week I was at Genting… hahaha and I was very good in pin balls machine and Galaxian.  hahaha…

Even when I went to Secondary school, I also put all my efforts in the club – Drama Club.  I remember I flunk my Calculus.  I did not do well in SPM Malay and Biology (Malaysia’s O-Level) too.  But I become what I am today because I have learned to become what I am today.

So, try not to stress the kids too much.  It’s holiday, let them play.

Hello hello… you hear me?  Let them kids have the childhood they suppose to have.  Use another way to teach them.  It does not have to be emphasis on points or marks or even T-Scores.  I strongly believe, the kids will find a way to grow up.  But only those with happy thoughts will become a happy person eventually.